Change the Church

I am disappointed in my church – the Anglican Church of Canada – for failing to pass the canon allowing same-sex marriage ceremonies. In an age when the Church is facing extinction, when we all need spiritual guidance, this was their chance to proudly lead the way to acceptance and love for all of God’s…

Stray Dog

What do you think happens if you chase a stray dog?  Does running towards that dog allow you to catch her?  Not usually.  They can outrun us with their four legs.  In order to secure the dog, you have to run away from it – preferably in the opposite direction of the street – and…

Stuck in the Sand

One of my best coping strategies is sticking my head in the sand. “La! La! La! La! I can’t hear you!” I yell at myself, eyes squeezed tightly shut, fingers jammed into my own ears like a three-year-old.  When my bestie asks if I have dealt with <current crisis> I respond with “Shhhhhhhh.  There is…

The Power of a Smile

I remember when my son was starting Grade 4 at a brand-new school.  He went through four different IQ tests in Grade 3 which identified him in the top 2%.  Our regional school board supported a Gifted Program and provided bussing to transport these exceptional students to a satellite school in our town.  My son…

ADVENTures in December

Today – December 2 – is the first day of the Advent for 2018.  It’s a time of anticipation and a countdown to the aventus (meaning arrival or coming in Latin).  But arrival of what?  Its symbology has swirled among our earliest religions, folding in layers and layers of traditions, just like Christmas itself.  It’s…

December 1st, 2018

December is a welcome blast of Northern air to clean out the death and dying I associate with November. The eleventh month is one, which – for me – embodies endings and memorials.  The last traces of the summer have gone, but the winter has not yet begun.  It’s the No Mans Land of the…

If you died today … what would be your biggest regret?

Facing death is something I have to do at least every six months with my scans.  The grim reaper has come calling once, but it wasn’t my time.  I came back with a new appreciation for the moments we have and with whom we share them with.  If you aren’t in my life, there is…

The Meaning of Life

If you happened to see someone dancing on the street this morning as she walked her two dogs  … that was me.  Headphones and iPhone, two bewildered dogs and a dozen cars honking because I was just that happy!  I hope I made someone’s morning.  But I am also content to beat my own drum…

Lesson 7 ~ “I only see the past”

Humans are obsessed with their future. We want to know what will happen tomorrow, the day, month, year or decades after that.  We read horoscopes, visit fortune tellers and try to predict the stock market.  We are less capable adults if we don’t plan ahead for rainy days, education funds and retirement. I spent a…

Lesson 6 ~ “I am upset because I see something that is not there”

“I am upset because I see something that is not there.” Search your mind for a moment and find what is bothering you most. What are you feeling?  Name the form of upset you are experiencing: Sadness:  depression, despair, disappointment, hopelessness Anxiety:  fear, worry, concern, nervous, panic, dread Anger: irritation, frustration, annoyance, rage Shame/Embarrassment Guilt…

Lesson 5 ~ “I am never upset for the reason I think”

I had to let this lesson for today sit with me awhile. And remind myself of the research I did into the psychology of abuse.  The abuser’s overwhelming need to control comes from a place of fear.  The root of anger is fear.  It may look like fearlessness, but it isn’t.  It’s usually a warning…

Lessons 3 ~ “I do not understand anything I see”

This lesson from A Course In Miracles was tougher for me because I try to understand everything, even when I don’t understand it.  Especially when I don’t understand it!  It’s my inquisitive nature. But this lesson is necessary to tear down the walls of what we think we know. I know nothing. We view everything…